What About Our Children's Tears?
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December 15, 2009
Iowa mother was sentenced to life without parole Tuesday for slitting her 2-year-old son's throat and leaving him to die near a remote pond.
November 18, 2009
The case of Antoinette Nicole Davis, a North Carolina mother accused of selling her 5 year-old daughter, Shaniya, into prostitution, highlights one of the most heinous forms of trafficking within the U.S.
November 17, 2009
Deputies with the Racine County, Wisconsin, Sheriff's Office arrested a white supremacist and convicted bomber on numerous charges of child abuse.
November 2, 2009
A Brandon couple face child abuse and drug charges after deputies found marijuana and hydrocodone during a traffic stop. The couple's 2-week-old daughter was in the vehicle at the time, deputies say.
I am concerned about our children in this country. I am concerned about the apparent breakdown in the family structure. Our families are disintegrating before our very eyes and we are losing our children in the process. If we are losing our children, what kind of a future is there for the American culture?
Child abuse (including internet abuse) in this nation is epidemic. Not only are we beating our children senseless, raping them, verbally abusing them, publicly humiliating them, starving them, trafficking them, exploiting them, emotionally abandoning them, but we are literally murdering them. And, maybe worst of all, we are ignoring them, treating them as non-entities. The sad truth is that we here in the great United States of America, have not been kind to our children, the weakest, smallest and most vulnerable of our citizens. We have neither loved nor protected them. We have shut our eyes to our children’s suffering and I am afraid the next generation will pay consequences price.
Children are abused in the home, in schools, churches, and youth clubs. Where are they to go to escape the pain of living? The child welfare system is busting at the seams trying to accommodate the need for out of home placements, but the demands is greater that the supply. To escape the trauma of home, more and more youth seek substitutes outside the nuclear family and they find them in gangs, pimps and prostitutes, drugs and alcohol, promiscuity and the underworld. These substitute parents offer them love, a sense of belonging, support, a “family” and a promise to wipe the tears streaming from their violated souls. It is a fake world, but a world in which they at least find the appearance of the safety and security and affection they are so desperately seeking.
If you ask what is wrong with the young people, I will tell you what is wrong with the older generation. Today too many children have to search beyond the walls of home and community to find love and honor and respect. Many of our children do not know how to live because all they have been exposed to is chaos and confusion, violence and betrayal, disregard and disrespect. These young minds see the soulless character of this society. Our children, who hear us talk about a God that they do not see reflected in our own lives. Our children, who rebel against rules and regulations that tell them to “do as I say,” but “not as I do.” If you ask what is wrong with the young generation today, I will tell you what is wrong with the older generation.
After all, who is it that changed their diapers? Parents were their first teachers, before they ever heard of a Michael Jackson, Beyonce or Miley Cyrus. Mothers and fathers are the first teachers. But when fathers are nowhere to be found and mothers consumed in getting their own needs met, who is there to care about the children’s tears?
I find it interesting that in the Christian Bible, we find several attempts by the god of this world to destroy the children. If you are going to destroy a nation and a people, begin with the children. So Satan, through the king of Egypt, orders two Hebrew mid wives, Shiphrah and Puah, to kill every male child born. The midwives disobeyed and his plan failed to stem the tide of the Jewish population explosion as he had hoped. This did not stop him from inventing another method; throw every male child born into the NileRiver. Again, hoping to kill Moses, he failed. When Jesus was born, Satan through Herod the Great, ordered all boys in the vicinity two years and under killed. Satan knows that the best way to destroy a country, destroy a people, destroy a family is through the children - because when you annihilate children, you annihilate a whole generation. I am concerned about our children.
But thanks be to God, we find in Psalm 78 God’s strategy for preserving the family, for saving our children. The Psalmist understood that if the family was to survive, parents must be willing to hear the teachings of God:
O my people, hear my teaching; listen to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth in parables, I will utter hidden things, things from of old-what we have heard and known, what our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the LORD, his power, and the wonders he has done. He decreed statutes for Jacob and established the law in Israel, which he commanded our forefathers to teach their children, so the next generation would know them, even the children yet to be born, and they in turn would tell their children. Then they would put their trust in God and would not forget his deeds but would keep his commands.
When you have mothers and fathers, and other significant others, who do not listen to the Lord, then we have a generation that refuses to pay God any attention. It is tragic that Christians can be in the church every week and still not listen to God. They walk in deaf and leave deaf. Many walk in closed-minded and leave closed-minded, walk in empty, leave empty, walk in with an attitude, and leave with an attitude.
Open your ears, says the Psalmist, and I will show you lessons from our history, stories handed down to us from former generations. I will reveal these truths to you so that you can tell your children.
If we are to save our next generation, parents and the community must step up to the plate to love and protect our children. That being done, we have a responsibility to tell generations following who God is, what He has done, is doing, can do and will do.
What about our children’s tears?
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Rev Lady, Excellent my sister! You have made some disturbing but necessary points! As you vehemently stated: "If you ask what is wrong with the young people, I will tell you what is wrong with the older generation. Today too many children have to search beyond the walls of home and community to find love and honor and respect. Many of our children do not know how to live because all they have been exposed to is chaos and confusion, violence and betrayal, disregard and disrespect."
I shudder when I think of what it will be like for this next generation growing up with all this so called freedom!
Early on parents and grandparents need to teach children their rights! They have a right to say no! They have a right not to be yelled and screamed at and physically, mentally and emotionally abused! They have a right to be "LOVED" and protected properly! This is the duty of a parent!
We can not change what has been done! But we must start making sure that it does not continue! Begin by intervening when you see, know or suspect a child or teenager is being abused in anyway.
Thank you for this compelling and necessary Message! Much Love and Blessings!
Absolutely godpreacher,
One way EVERYONE can help is to report even the suspicion of a child being abused. It is our responsibility. Every child who is being abused must be protected. We owe them that.
Reporting is important because we do not have to KNOW that a child is being harmed, but if the situation or child gives the appearance of abuse, we must REPORT our suspicions. We can make the report ANONYMOUSLY. The report will be investigated by Child Welfare and if it is not substantiated, that is okay, but it will bring the family to their attention. If it IS substantiated, we will have helped to save the child from further abuse or even death.
This includes THE CHURCH. There is a lot of sexual abuse occurring in Catholic and Protestant churches. Keep an eye out for the children and REPORT any suspicion to Child Welfare.
The National Child Abuse Hotline is:1-800-422-4453 TDD: 1-800-222-4453, 24/7.
Put this number in your cell phone in case you encounter a child being abused in the supermarket, amusement park, on a picnic, or any other place you may be visiting.
We must respond to the tears of our children!
Thank you godpreacher. Who is there to look out for the absolute powerless among us, if not us?
DeBorrah, I deeply appreciate your comments. I care so much about the sorrows and despair of God’s little children whose very lives depend upon adults who, out of their own selfishness or needs, take it out on our little ones who cannot protect themselves. All they can do is hurt and hurt and hurt.
In addition to the previous post, another way we can help is by nurturing all children, not just our own. All children must be considered our children. A few minutes of love given to a child may be just what the child needs to learn that love does exist.
Thank you DeBorrah!
Forever His,
Morning RevLady and as always "Bang On Girl"...I think the sad part of it all is we have become hardened to hearing the stories as they have been alloweed to become common place in society, the media. We hear it go tisk, tisk tisk and move onto the next horrid story that fills our airways.
Our ministry over the years has brought the wounded, the abused and the many that have carried generational sin as a millstone. It is Jesus who can set them free, the laws need to be changed, throughout the world.
Children are our future, they are not our toys, what the young mind obsorbs today will determine its future. Wake up North America...Wake Up...
Blessings
So true Quill. It saddens my heart that the ills to the little ones has indeed become so common place that it is virtually ignored.
I realize that there are many who are trying against overwhelming odds to rescue and protect our children. There are some legislators who care and some citizens who are doing all they can within the limits imposed.
But to allow child abuse to become epidemic does not speak well of our society. Where we should be outraged, we say "tisk, tisk tisk and move onto the next horrid story that fills our airways." It is just disconcerting that seemingly, more outrage is demonstrated toward animals than children. Yet, animals will not be the generation to carry this nation forward (for backwards).
God loves children and even went so far as to encourage adults to be more like them.
Regardless of "family values" verbiage thrown around, it is clear children are not valued in this country.
Thank you Quill for your comments. It is good to know that some big humans care about our little humans.
Forever His,
Oh Revlady, what happened to our humanity, sad really, and I just wish that people will listen to children cries for help, they are the world and the only link to the future too...
Wonderful hub as always, Bless, Maita
prettydarkhorse that is a good question, "what happened to our humanity?." Takes a mind much greater than mine to answer it. Thank you for commenting Maita.
Forever His,
RevLady, this is a beautiful and moving hub. When you say "If you ask what is wrong with the young people, I will tell you what is wrong with the older generation.", you hit the nail on the head. The only thing I want to mention is the reporting part you added in one of your responses. My wife and I were on the front lines of this at one time. We were foster parents for almost 20 years. The system that is suppose to safeguard the children has blown up. My wife and I came to the conclusion that the spiritual damage being done by removing children was worse than the physical in many instances. Plain and simple, most of these kids wanted to go home. And the reporting part is extemely dangerous. Sorry to carry this out so far, but, we were friends with another foster couple, really great people. They took in this boy with really bad self-abuse issues, and he couldn't speak hardly at all. His self-abuse issues were well-documented. Three times, these foster parents were reported by the school for abuse, and all three times moved to another home during the investigation process. The second time, we took the boy in. They warned us that the school wanted him out and they made the reports because everytime he got moved temporarily, he missed school. We said, okay, we'll drive him and pick him up every day. First day we did this, a social worker showed up at our door that evening saying there had reports of abuse. She called in for some back up and was ready to put us under review and move the child again, when the we all heard him screaming in the other room. The social worker went in by herself and watched as he abused himself right in front of her. We told her about the schools reputation with this case. She apologized, called off her backup and left the boy with us. The investigation with the other family ended right away the next day and he went home. About a week later the school called again and the foster parents threw up their hands and said enough. I have no idea where this child is now. (Breath) I always have a problem with any government intervention because 1. They don't have the proper channels in place to really handle the load. 2. Many of the workers are angry over what they have seen and they come in with a 'where there is smoke there is fire' mentality. 3. Spiritually, any child removed falsely from a home to preserve his or her physical well-being is very likely to have trust and safety issues the rest of their life. Thanks for being patient with my rant. Peace.
I hear you dear friend. I was a part of the child welfare system for a total of 28 years in various capacities including foster care and child protection worker. Everything you have articulated, believe me, I have heard and witnessed on more occasions than I care to remember. This is a failure of the Child Welfare system and also why there continue to be a shortage of foster homes. States handle foster care issues differently and so we certainly do not want to discourage reporting abuse. In my mind, there is abuse, and there is ABUSE. Though there is no perfect solution, decisions must be made to protect the child as much as possible.
Of course we know that there has also been issues of foster parents and relatives abusing the children placed in their care. Sometimes worse than the parents had, leaving many of us in the system wonder if it had not been best to leave them where they were. This too is unfortunate and deplorable, but it happens. By the time some children are placed in a good home, her or she is so damaged, behaviors as you indicated are exhibited and long term mental health intervention is required.
Even so, I encourage people to report child abuse. I believe the number of children our flawed system saves, far exceed those that fall through the cracks.
Thank you AM. I felt your concern and it is not yours alone. Many foster parents share your views and it is understandable. I remain an avid supporter of past, present and all future foster parents. One of the things I do like about Florida's foster care system is that foster parents have their own worker and the child has his or hers (which is also the parent's). Thus, the foster parent has a strong ally who intervenes on their behalf.
Again, I sincerely appreciate you taking the time to voice your concerns. They are well taken.
Forever His,
Amen RevLady, applaud your hub about our children and I agree with you, we need more loving and caring parent in this wordl to love and care about our innocence children going to the slaughter. very good hub,Thank you so much for sharing. Godspeed. creativeone59
I'd surely like to know how we can go about being a foster parent or even open a children's home for these abandoned children. While I'm somewhat afraid (in the flesh) of dealing with all the emotional baggage these kids carry with them, if the Lord leads ~ I think we need to do something. I was raised in foster care, so it hits home. I'll be praying.
Wow. So many troubling stories. You are exactly right.
"I find it interesting that in the Christian Bible, we find several attempts by the god of this world to destroy the children."
How true. Thank you for this thought-provoking piece.
Creativeone, You are such a dear sister. Actually, I was telling my sister about your daily thoughts the other day. My niece is confronting "jealousy" in her relationship and I sent a link to your hub. Thank you for the comment. I am concerned about the world of our children and grandchildren.
Judah's Daughter, We share more in common that I initially thought, Part of my 28 years expereince in the foster care system included my also being in foster care.
If you are considering becoming a foster parent in either capacities, you may want to view a couple of articles about foster parents and foster children at
https://www.amen4me.com/FosterCare/foster_parent.h
Ken, my friend - I never tire of your support and encouragement. You are really like a breath of fresh air.
I love children and feel so sad inside when they are hurt do deeply and can offer no defense. Thank you for visiting!
Forever His,
RevLady, God is blessing you with wisdom care and concern for your fellowman, especially those who are weakest. Thank you for your insights. Continue giving us this great information. I will use much of your info in my sermons and teachings. I hope you don't mind.
Joque, I grow also from reading your hubs dear friend and thank God for leading me to become a fan.
Of course you can use whatever you find on my hubpages that you feel will be beneficial to those you serve. I feel deeply honored and humbled by the request.
Thank you so much for coming by and commenting. It truly means the world to me.
Forever His,
Hello,
My life has indeed been a mess. I have asked myself several times what I did to deseve such abuse to happen to me. I broke rules as any kid does. I don't deny I did anything, but nothing I did deserves what was done to me.
A few of the major things done to me was a spinal injury by a staff member in a psych ward who wanted to show me never to cross him. It worked. I take 2 vicodine, a methadone and a muscle relaxer to deal with the pain, and the damage effected my bladder. I will be in diapers for the rest of my life. I have been locked in the solitary room at the psych ward from 7pm-8:30am the next morning for not going to my room when told overnight in the dark. I am now terrified of the dark and have to have a lamp on in my bedroom at all times, and have nightlights in every room of the house. For refusing to do a strip search for a gay staff member, I was put in restraints for 14 hours without food or water and restroom. When I was finally let out I had been laying in a 2 inch deep pool of urine for over 12 hours. Been threatened with shock treatment by one hospital, they said if I ever came back there I would be shocked. Another ER said I was coming for attention. When I wouldn't put on a gown because it directly set of my PTSD, the nurse said if I didn't put on the gown she would put me in restraints, cut my clothing off and put a cathater in without any lube. I had a breakdown sitting in the gown crying for hours waiting for mental health to pick me up from the ER.
I have been locked in so called "time out" rooms at the special education schools many times. These rooms are about the size of a closet and often smell like pee because once in the room your not allowed out for any reason. Many times I have not gotten my lunch at school because I was in the room for 1-4 hours per session. Most kids either wet their pants or peed in the corner of the room because they are not let out to use the bathroom until the staff member feels the child has learned their lesson. I was beat up alot at school and because most special ed schools use the rule of "if I didn't see it, it didn't happen" I would leave the classroom to escape the abuse and sit in the field to calm down. I was tracked down by a teacher and dragged, not walked to the time out room and locked in for sometimes hours on end. One teacher picked me up off the floor and slammed me into a chair facing a wall one time when I wouldn't come willingly.
I have had teachers spank me with belts, threaten to diaper me for the day and put me with the day care for leaning back in my chair. At Tobinworld in Glendale California this one staff member on my first day there accused me of taking his pen. I got the pen at a dollar store the day before. When I wouldn't give it up he pushed me back in my chair breaking a table in half that was behind me. Once on the floor he put me on my belly with my arms and legs extended out. He saw the pen that fell from my hand on the way down and said "now who has the pen?". I was then restrained on the floor and he put his elbow into my right shoulder blade and pressed it in till I was screaming in pain for over 45 minutes. When I was finally let up to rejoin the class I was walked down to the black top where he whispered into my ear "If you do ANYTHING, I will drop your ass. I don't care". And he didn't. Most of the school year he would call me names like white boy and such until I got angry and tried to step out of the classroom to calm down and then he would slam me to the floor saying I was "going off". He would keep my lunch from me for weeks at a time. He let a student attack me by putting a noose around my neck chocking me while the staff member stood and watched. Told me I was gay because I looked him in the eye when he spoke to me. Told me I was a waste of time and a waste of space.
My family did their own abuse. My grandma put hot sauce in my eyes when I yelled for her to leave me alone and stop yelling at me. My dad would drink and beat me for all kinds of reasons. My mom socked me in the stomach dropping me to the floor on my brothers 9th brithday when we both had a fight and I hit him once. I couldn't breath when shee hit me. When I do things like fight with my brother or get suspended from school for protecting myself from a bully (The school still saw it as fighting so I was suspended), my mom would call the psych ward and tell them I tried to kill myself so they would take me for 3-7 days. This way I was being punished and she didn't have to do it. One time the hospital didn't take me for being suicidal so she tried to get me put in a group home instead. She sat there on the bench next to me telling me how much I would like being in a group home and how good it would be for me. When the group home wouldn't take me she took me to child services and lied to the worker and told her I was beatting her and my brother and that they feared for their lives. I was about to be taken away when the form for child support came out. It would cost her $600.00 a month for child support. All the sudden she told the truth that I wasn't touching her. In fact, it was me that was terrified of her.
What I described was just some of what happened. I have not spoken to my family in many years. When I confronted my mom with the abuse in the school and hospital she told me it was my fault I was hurt. That I should have done exactly as I was told. No matter what I did, I didn't deserve to be abused. When I tried to tell her about the abuse at school and the hospital as a child, I was told I was lieing and trying to get out of the school and hospitals. I dropped out of school the very day I turned 18 to stop the abuse. And 5 times during my childhood I attempted suicide because I couldn't take the abuse. I honestly do not understand why people can hurt children without even caring. I remember every single time I was abused. The things done to me, I just can't excuse and forgive. It was uncalled for. What parent lies to get rid of their kid. That was one of the hardest things for me to handle. Feeling unloved and unwanted. Having files and incident reports altered to make me the aggressor to justify the abuse, and would fail to mention injuries done to me on purpose. It's a real sad word that kids cannot be safe. It still takes me over 3 hours to get to sleep at night because I have a hard time feeling safe. And because of the abuse I was diagnosed PTSD. Due to the abuse I cannot be touched unless I know the person is coming. Twice I seriously injered someone because they touched me without me knowing they were coming. Once was my friend who was waking me up for dinner, I nearly broke his arm thinking he was attacking me. And nother time was a 11 year old boy who was trying to scare me and said boo. I spun around and jabbed him in the neck by reflex. He dropped to the floor and had a hard time breathing. I felt horrible. I wouldn't be the way I was if I was protected by my parents. Instead I live being afraid of the next time someone is going to hurt me. It's not a way for a child to grow up. Sorry for the long post. It's just so much has happned to me over the years. I cannot even remmeber the first 10 years of my life. It's blocked. The therapist thinks something serious happened and I blocked it to protect myself. So probably more happened and I don't even know what. I hate my life.
-Stanley
Stanley_19802@yahoo.com
Dear Heart, your story is heart wrenching and sounds so terribly painful that it is difficult to even image what you must have gone through. It is unthinkable what some people are capable of doing to children, even disobedient ones. There is just no justification for it.
It grieves me that you hate your life, that the carry over from your youth still robs you of much of the joys of life. I trust your therapy will assist you in reconciling with the past so that you are enabled to live more contently in the present and future. This is my hope for you in the New Year.
I wonder also if you have considered a pastoral counselor or pastor. Our Lord, One who was abused in the worst way known to man, and ultimately killed, helps us learn to heal.
Thank you Stanley for taking the time to share a portion of your life journey. May it help others to know the deep wounds it leaves in the hearts and souls of abused children who are helpless to help themselves.
I pray your peace!
Hello,
I have heard that my story is a bit worse than the average child abuse. And a few times I have had therapists tell me they have no idea how I am still alive as most people would have commited suicide for less. And to be honest, I have no idea how I am still around. Of the 7 suicide attepts to date, I am still here, so someone is watching over me. I have spent much time thinking about why it is I am here (alive). I think in my heart that I am here to help those children who are unable to defend themselves from often those who are supposed to be there to keep them safe, their own parents. And to share my own experience with abuse and hopefully someday soon end abuse for all. There is nothing wrong with being angry, but it's not ok to hurt someone else no matter how angry a person is. And the saying "what comes around, goes around" has been seen many times in my life. Those who put out hate, get hate back. My mom is a good example, there was a time she was all about money and made in excess of 2 thousand dollars a month for many years is now without a job and living off what her boyfriend gets with SSI disability which is about $800.00 a month. She would rarely help anyone, now no one is willing to help her. She has lost much in the last few months, including her house, car, the things she valued. She hurt both me and my brother for several years. Now she has a back problem, emphysema from smoking and now is on oxygen and breathing treatments, has had several shoulder surgeries and can bearly move. Carma is the ultimate force. People can get off when charged with a crime. With Carma, if you did something, it will come back to you. There is no way to escape it. And I think my mom is paying her price for what she has done. As I am sure are others, but I don't keep contact with others who have harmed me to be able to say for sure. I spend each day doing what I can to help others. Every day presents a new day of chances to help others. Be it to hold the door open, say good morning, help someone in with their bags, stop for someone in trouble on the freeway (which very few do), As for getting help for what happened, I was able to get therapy for a few years, but since moving to Redding California, I have not been able to get help due to mental health doesn't accept my second insurance, so because they don't take my second insurance they won't take my first. I would thing having two insurance providers (Medi-cal and Medi-care) would mean I have a better chance to get help, but instead it makes it harder. And those on SSI are unable to cancel one or the other so I fell through the crack. They did have a buy in program who you pay them $7.00 a month for their own insurance, but because I have the medi-cal and medi-care, they say I have insurance and won't let me get theirs. I have no way to get therapy so I have to visit the ER about once a week for a sort of patch job to keep me going. And what is sad is the ER charges my insurance $40,000.00 a month on average when just $1,200 for pay for therapy 4 times a week for a year. Waste of money. Anyway, sorry again for such a long reply. Thanks for your very kind words. Take care and have a wonderful New Years and great 2010! :)
-Stanley
Stanley_19802@yahoo.com
Stanley, you've come through so much. I believe God is with you. The insurance system is wicked, for sure ~ I just feel led to tell you that I have a hub called "Karma and Christianity" I hope you will read. God truly forgives sin, and personal, spiritual healing comes from forgiving others, even if you might feel they don't deserve it; it's freeing to your soul. When someone turns his/her life to Jesus, they are not under His wrath, but His grace. I pray your Mom come to know Him. God does discipline those He loves to bring them to repentance. You have quite a testimony and a powerful ministry rooted in compassion for abuse. What helped me to forgive my abusers is to realize that abuse breeds abuse. Those who abused you were most likely abused in a similar manner growing up ~ only God can heal everyone and is able to do it! Keep the faith and know He loves you. I pray He brings you to full release of your pains and hurts so He can have more room to fill you with His miraculous peace. Be blessed, in His Name.
You're only telling part of the story. The fact is, in the vast majority of cases where a child is killed in their real homes, CPS (Child Protective Services) has been involved with the family on numerous occasions and failed to do anything about the abuse. CPS removes children needlessly from safe, loving homes all for the federal adoption bonus money guaranteed by ASFA (the adoption and safe families act) and Title IV-E funding. The truly abused children are left to languish in their real homes where they're abused, neglected, raped, beaten, go missing and even killed. CPS fails to protect on ALL levels. It is not about child protection, it's all about the money. They've brought the foster care system down with them.
Google these names...
Shaniya Davis
Daneial Kelly
Marcus Fiesel
Haley Gray,
Adrianna and Tyler Payne
Kyra Zabuh
Trymain Peters
Gabriel Meyers
Zoey Zanderbox
There are hundreds of thousands more just like them that have been killed while in foster are. Others killed by mommy's boyfriend, a step-parent, or even bio parents. It is very rare that CPS actually gets it right.
I think your heart is in the right place. I agree that something has got to be done but it's NOT just biological parents. In fact, more children are killed, go missing or sexually assaulted in foster care than in their real homes. In fact, on my blog tonight I posted 2 different articles where 2 separate foster fathers is now in prison for pimping out their foster girls.
We need to hold CPS accountable for their actions. They need to stop worrying about money and start worrying about the children that they promised to protect but are failing miserably.
I agree entirely with you and feel your passion. Please understand that the intention of this hub was to merely increase awareness of child abuse in general that occurs within our capitalistic society.
"We need to hold CPS accountable for their actions. They need to stop worrying about money and start worrying about the children that they promised to protect but are failing miserably." TRUE! This has been and will be the ongoing cry. Yet, there has also been as many children who were saved by the system.
I cannot look at the failure of the system without first looking at why CPS is needed at all. "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places."
CPS reflects the moral decline of our nation at large and we all share in the corporate sins of the nation in which we live.
In the final analysis, God is not mocked and He is aware of all that is happening. Whatsoever a man sows, he will ultimately reap.
Thank you for taking the time to comment. It helps to increase awareness of the state of the Child Welfare system and the sufferings of this nation's children. God bless!
Forever His,
Rev Lady, another good read. God have mercy on us all.
That is my constant prayer too susan, "Have mercy on us all."
Seeing the world, through the eyes of our children...is a God given responsibility. Taking our eyes off ourselves, and focusing on their needs, is a must in today's society. That is, if we are to have hope, for any future days...in this world? What damage adults do, even by not doing:( Excellent Hub!
Your comments are so true and sad. Thank you for sharing.
Love and hugs,
Forever His,
Hello Reverend Lady, though the reality of this hub is a sad, sad revelation of truth, it is still a very good hub. A subject that needed to be broached and written.
We all know that abuse if often passed down from parent to child, until, by the Grace of God, there is healing. I know of abuse and mistreatment, I know it has walked through my family line, trying to keep its presence there. But our God is merciful and loving, and so intervened and brought healing and forgiveness.
I know that many will continue the abuse because they were abused, but becoming adults, coming to a real age of accountability (at least this is what I believe), we then have the moral responsibility to bring about change - to want to stop the abuse. Of course, we need to recognize this first, and then by God's grace we WILL find healing.
Always, all Glory to God!
Thank you RevLady for always just being there. In our home you are loved and greatly respected. We firmly believe that the Holy Spirit leads you to write what needs to be said, saying what many of us need to hear.
From my home (in which I believe our God is Lord of all), I send you much love and many BIG hugs to you today, in the precious name of Jesus.
VKA
VKA,
It always saddens my spirit to hear about child abuse. It just never seems to stop. Child abuse has been around for eons. In the Old Testament we read of children being offered as sacrifice for sins, The New Testament begins with the slaughter of innocent children in a vain attempt to kill the infant Jesus. We have not been kind to the weakest, most innocent and vulnerable in this world.
Let us pray for our children. They cannot defend themselves. I shudder to think what the next generation will be like when these abused children grow up and seek revenge on the society that failed to love and protect them.
God bless you VKA. You, MR and Ama are indeed like family to me. You must be proud of Ama. I am impressed with her genuineness. Rare find these days. In fact, that is one of the things that impress me about you and MR as well. I connect with genuineness as I am genuine. Not perfect, but real.
Love and God's blessings on you and your entire family. You all are a great blessing and source of inspiration to my very soul.
Forever His,
Excellent hub that is so true. GBY
Thanks Stars. I miss you and hope to be back on hp soon.
Hi revlady, while the child abuse may be increasing in west , in India it is actually coming down as people now have only 1 or 2 children but then we have different parameters of what is child abuse. The examples you gave above were horrible and parents shouldnt be allowed to do that. Infact a child to grow normally should have both biological parent home so i feel unless we make divorce laws very strict, people wont respect family and child abuse would always be there. I mean people just wont jump in to marriage and reporduce if they know they have to be very serious about all this as there is no way out.
Hi Sweetie,
The problem with laws, is that people break them (smile). To my mind, what we need is LOVING parents.
Thanks for the visit and the meaningful thoughts.
godpreacher 2 years ago
RevLady,
I am in complete agreement with you. Something has to be done, Now. We cannot afford to lose another generation. " If not us, who, If not now, when?" Taking a line from an old Prince song, "I don't want to hear another dove cry."